the 14 and 15 month hurdle

Wednesday, February 15, 2017

the 15 and 15 month hurdleParenting is full of different seasons.  I have found that often a change in seasons sneaks up on you, and you don’t realize it until you look around and realize things feel different.  I have learned that when I realize things are good, I should soak it in and feel thankful, because things can change on a dime!

I recently had one of these realizations; I was at the end of the day and I felt especially worn out and at the end of my patience.  It occurred to me that Ellie had recently turned 14 months, and I have it etched into my memory that 14 and 15 months were especially challenging seasons with Vivi and Brigette.

(sources for above: bubble jumper; beaufort bonnet; van walker; Picchu Alpaca; Snake Socks; Snack Cup)

why 14 months is challengingEllie is pure sweetness, to be sure, but this season has less to do with personality, and more to do with all the changes happening, I think.  All my babies dropped their morning nap at this age (which can be a tough transition), and it’s like they realize they have so much to say, but they can’t communicate yet, and also so many things they want to do, but aren’t ready for physically.  Plus, Ellie just sprouted four molars, and it looks like she is working on more teeth!  All of this leads to a lot of frustration, and it’s especially this age when cooking supper is a real challenge, and sometimes getting through the day feels like I’m walking up a mountain while carrying all of my kiddos at the same time.

why 14 months is challenging

I remember, though, that at the end of this season is a lot of fun; her language will start to explode, she will be able to do more physically, and honestly the age of 2 has been my favorite with both Vivi and Brigie.  It is so much fun, and so sweet.  I don’t know that I’m saying much here other than to say “me too” if you find yourself challenged at this age especially.  And if this is your first, just know that it truly is just a phase, and it will pass before you can blink!

My strategy to navigate this time is usually lots of snacks, an early bedtime, and running errands with her.  She loves going out and being distracted by seeing lots of people and being on the go, and it keeps us both sane!

What do you think?  What has been your most challenging parenting season so far?

17 responses to “the 14 and 15 month hurdle”

  1. Mindy says:

    Yes! This is my least favorite stage, too, and somewhere between 18 and 24 months I think it all smooths out and gets so fun! We just came out of it, so I feel you sister.

  2. Chelsey says:

    Ah, Yes! The first thing I have to do when i wake up in the morning is pray for patience for the day. I have a 2 year old and an almost 4 year old, and my older daughters age is just throwing me for a huge loop. I just can’t figure out how to discipline, or manage her most days honestly! did your girls fight at those ages? bc mine fight all. day. long. Lord send HELP! haha. Thank you for being honest! All of us with little kiddos are in the same boat!

    • Mildred says:

      Chelsey, my daughter will be 4 this coming month and my son is 2 and being an only child myself I wasn’t sure if all their bickering and silly fights all the time was normal or not. So glad you charged and makes me feel like I’m not failing as a momma. And yes I ask God and receive his grace a lot these past mornings.

  3. Sue says:

    Oh wow! Three is kicking my butt! My li’l sweetheart was just sooo sweet (with occasional naughtiness, of course) until she turned 3, and since then it’s been quite the ride! Love her to pieces of course, though. But it does make me soak in the baby sweetness of her little brother, knowing what’s to come. 😉

  4. Beth says:

    We did lots of signing around that age – words like more, help, hot, and lots of animals (dog, bird, etc.). It really helped with communication for both of us. E can probably pick up words quick with her age.
    Also, making dinner at 4:00 and reheating it at dinner time instead of attempting to make it right before has worked like a charm for us. You’re doing great and your family is precious!

  5. Tiffany says:

    So glad to read this today. My 2nd is 16 months and I had forgotten how hard this stage is. It’s helpful to remember it’s not about personality and more about circumstance (4 molars and 2 I teeth coming in here too). ❤️

  6. Emily Morrison says:

    Joni! Having two girls, I’d love to hear your perspective on the three year old stage. Im with you that two was so fun and sweet…but 3 is kind of kicking my butt!

  7. Jamie Baker says:

    With Bryan, 3 1/2 to 4 1/2 were difficult. Betsy has been much easier, so far! She turns 4 next week so we’ll see. Haha! Hang in there sweet mamas. 🙂

  8. Morgen says:

    1 and 3 are the toughest so far for me. Three has me scared for my middle daughter’s teen years! With a baby and a give month old too, though, you’re right it is easier to remember that it’s just a phase and hopefully she will be back to sweet soon. She was THE SWEETEST baby, and her big brother who was my most challenging by far, is now a pretty reasonable and calm person. Perspective is all that’s getting me through the days! I can’t tell you hoe much I appreciate you sharing your challenges as a mom. It helps so much to hear a me too!!

  9. jana says:

    U better much summed it up and I love her outfit it’s the cutest!!!

  10. Karen Peterson says:

    In child development lingo, toddlerhood is called first adolescence and, possibly, a foreshadowing of things to come. I found my boys to be much easier than my girls at this age. Good luck!

  11. Kat says:

    Haha, I literally googled “cranky 14 month old” last night. So glad to hear this phase is normal!

  12. Genevieve Koesling says:

    What are the size of all your photos and frames? I love this room.

  13. Kristina says:

    She is so adorable! If you’re looking to save money on diapers and other baby supplies, Donewithramen.com posted some great deals at Kroger and Walmart!

  14. Kerry says:

    Uh oh! My girl turns 14 months next week. At least now I can consider myself warned and can brace myself!

  15. Claudia Boress says:

    Yes! This is exactly what I do with my little guy. Lots of people and trips outside the house is what I do as well.

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